A Perspective That Changes Everything

Filed in Charles, Christian Walk, Encouragement, faith, Jesus, Legacy, Life by on September 26, 2017

perspectiveSo much of life is about perspective and the lens in which we view life.

I was telling some students at Union the other day about my ideas on parenting and how I think every parent, no matter how many children they have at one time, should bring home one “extra” for a week. Because if they can learn how to take care of the one extra, whenever the extra goes home, your “real” number of kids will seem SO much easier 😉 Because it’s all about perspective! I know I am crazy – that is why Charles was the theologian of the family and not me! LOL

I was sitting in an interview the other day and they asked me what about Charles first attracted him to me?

Since it is no secret we met on eHarmony, one of the profile questions at the time said to list 5 things you were thankful for and on his list was “my health.”

I would later hear a message Charles had given in which he talked about the “blessings” of life. Instead of being upset he could no longer breathe on his own, he was thankful God provided a ventilator. Instead of being upset he could no longer walk on his own, he was thankful God provided a wheelchair. And the list goes on.

I don’t know about you but that perspective and view of life totally rocked my world! What do you mean, you are thankful for “your health” when you have Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and are completely dependent and have lost total control of all your muscles? What do you mean you are thankful for a ventilator when you are in respiratory failure and will never again breathe on your own?

His perspective changed me. His perspective challenged me. His perspective still challenges me today.

One of my dearest friends who has closely walked with me through this journey more so than anyone else in my life other than family has always made me, in those darkest of dark moments, tell her 3 things that I am most thankful for. To stop your mind from the downward spiral and stop and think of things to be thankful for changes your perspective. The dark never seems so dark once the list is produced.

The Bible is full of life altering and challenging perspectives. Just to name a few:

“So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but what is unseen for what is seen is temporary and what is unseen is eternal.” 2 Cor 4:19

“I don’t say this out of need, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am.” Phil 4:11

“Now we who are strong have an obligation to bear the weaknesses of those without strength, and not to please ourselves.” Romans 15:1

But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matthew 5:44

So much of our life falls out of balance when we no longer look at the world and our life and everything around us the way that God wants for us to. But when we seek His perspectives in the manner that He has laid out for us in scripture – through a heavenly lens it will forever change our lives.

In my own life I can choose to be upset that I have lost Charles or I can be thankful that he knew the Lord and is in Heaven and healed and whole.

I can choose to be upset that I no longer have his support and his guidance and love or I can be thankful that God has given me such a wonderful and loving family to be there for me since he has been gone.

I can choose to be upset that I have no idea what the future holds or I can be thankful that I know who holds the future.

I can choose to be upset that my children will grow up not knowing their amazing dad, or I can be thankful that God has given me such an amazing gift of joy so that I wouldn’t be alone.

And there are a million more.

My question for you is – what perspectives do you need to change?

When we see life as God would have us to see it – when we are thankful for what He has given us, as Charles was, instead of what we don’t have, it will change our life. It will grow us closer to the Lord and to each other.

We need to stop looking at the world around us as the world tells us to and start looking at the world around us the way God intends for us to.

It’s all about perspective.


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